The King's Gardeners Ministries



Reverend Dr. S. L. Gardner, Washington State,U.S.

Director - Billie Sue Mills, Florida, U.S.

Shofar Watchmen Pointman - Lynne Londsdale, United Kingdom

Praise and Worship Leader - Adrienne Enghouse, Oregon U.S.

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Unbreakable Covenant

Actions n Reactions

One of the most important things we can do as Christians who have taken a stand for the healing and restoration of our marriages, is to gain Godly wisdom and understanding. Armed with this, we will be able to clearly see what is going on with our spouses and this enables us to react to the situations that come up with the mind of Christ. We have to react to their sins, not them.

How does Jesus respond to sins? He forgives them out of His unfailing compassion for us. We need to do the same. No matter what they do, we must forgive the sins of our prodigal spouses. It is so easy to be drawn into a confrontation with our prodigals when they don't act/react the way we want them to. But put on the mind of Christ for a moment. No matter what anyone says, when you measure your spouses actions against the word, you see that what they are doing is sin. We have to recognize that.

As a stander I've learned to go before the Lord to ask for forgiveness for my wife for what she is doing. I do it nearly every day. Regardless of what she may say, it is clear that she is living with sin. We have to stand not only for the healing and restoration of our marriages, but we have to stand before the Lord and ask Him for forgiveness for our spouses daily. Don't forget to add yourself in that prayer request, for undoubtedly, you too have many sins to cover.

The sin of manipulation, of careless words, of not trusting the Lord for the outcome. Oh my, am I talking from my own experience here???? Oh YES! This morning I apologized to my wife for trying to manipulate her with whatever, the kids, money, guilt or anything else I have tried in the past that did not work. I've come to the same realization that Hosea did, that no matter what I've done or do, I cannot move my wife closer to me. I only push her away.

So what then do I do? I realized that to be in the river that flows out from the Father in Heaven is difficult. It is a struggle. But why? This is supposed to be easy by all accounts. Then I realized it is because as long as I hang on to something, I was providing resistance to the River's current. So why not just let go, and let the river take me where HE wants me to go? IT was because of fear. I've always done everything on my own. (Hence the reason my marriage deteriorated to the point of where it is today.) But let me tell you, once you let go, you find that there is no longer the feeling of being worn out all the time, drained by the emotional turmoil that accompanies marriage difficulties. You are just carried along by His river. There is the most incredible feeling of peace at the very moment that you let go and let God.

So like Hosea, I do the only thing that I can do. I just let go of her. I petition the Father daily. And like Hosea, I grow in the confidence that my Lord, who loved me more than I could imagine or deserve, is going to take care of the outcome whatever it may be. I encourage you all to just let go with me. Let's flow with the river of God. Come on dive in!! The water is Great!!!

And here's a departing word for you from Proverbs Chapter 2 :1 and following My son, if you accept my words and store up my commands within you, turning your ear to wisdom and applying your heart to understanding, and if you call out for insight and cry aloud for understanding, and if you look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden treasure, 5then you will understand the fear of the LORD and find the knowledge of God. 6For the LORD gives wisdom, and from his mouth come knowledge and understanding. 7He holds victory in store for the upright, he is a shield to those whose walk is blameless, for he guards the course of the just and protects the way of his faithful ones.

HALLELUJAH!!!!! And I want to remind you what Jesus did when He encountered someone dead. Did He bury them???? NOOOOOO He resurrected them and breathed life back into them. So when you think your marriage is dead and should be buried, trust in the Lord. He is a resurrection believing Lord!

May God richly bless you this day and throughout every day.

Steve B.

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