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- Free Will??? -

by Rev. Dr. S.L. Gardner

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I used to hear a lot about free will and spent some time in my teens and 20's exercising my own while my Mother prayed for me. She never gave up on me even when I knowingly chose what some would call sin unto death. Eventually (it took several years) God woke me up and I'm grateful for that. Given enough time and prayer that my Mom never gave up praying for me I "got with God's program" and still hope I am to the best of my human ability.

When I first started Standing I didn't know there were other Standers out there. I got sick of hearing about my husbands free will and that God couldn't or wouldn't do anything about his sin. It was killing me and my relationship with God. No one was saying God was going to do a single thing about my husbands sin. But there was a LOT of talk about how God would just let my husband "get on with his life" and would make everything new for him and me as we went our separate (and for him unrepentant) ways. There was more but it was so shameful that I'm not going to repeat it here. These people who were my peers in ministry did everything they could to make me bless my husbands sin and "move on" with my life, which meant forgetting my husband and finding a new one.

When I'd say but Malachi says God hates divorce I was given long sermons on how God hates lots of things but He just lets them slide on by. That sent me into study of history and the Word of God and I found them to be wrong on all counts. God is not a liar and will not be mocked what man sows man reaps and that's a historical fact as well as a biblical quote. (Now many of my peers are seeing things differently thank the Lord!)

You see I'd never thought about God being as impotent in dealing with people as He was being described to me. I had felt His Grace and correction and had experienced how He brought me back from the brink and some of the way was kicking and resisting big time even with serious consequences I held out for a long long time!

I had several "discussions" with God about free will and came to a conclusion. God is called ALL mighty, not my husband. Then I came up with this.

If my husband (or yours) is greater than All mighty God we need to open a new church on the nearest corner and call it the church of _____ whatever that spouses name is because our God has turned out to be a fraud and our spouse is greater. OR sin is greater!!! What an awful thought!

When we say that God cannot do something with our spouses we are saying that God is impotent to overcome the sin in their lives, their strongholds and the bible is a lie when it tells us that GREATER is HE that is in me and my husband/wife than he that is in the world. 1 John 4:4.

I was also blessed with a friend who would take me to task and say "are you going to go by what you think see or feel or by the Word of God?" When did God stop hating divorce and permanent marital separation? She still reminds me of that from time to time. I'd like to add to that when did God stop hating YOUR divorce or marital separation just because your husband or wife has made the situation worse by compounding their sin?

I know it's hard to keep the faith but that's what we are called to do. I can go nose to nose with just about anyone on mosaic and Christian as well as secular divorce law etc but when I do I always end up saying BUT we CANNOT put God in a box. HE is all mighty and not us. He is THE God of restoration and redemption. That's what He's all about. :) PRAISE GOD!!! I've just got too many testimonies of people restored after divorce and remarriage, restored when one spouse wasn't a believer and on and on to limit God any more. (and yes there was a time I did.)

As we read through Job we find where God finally had it with the small thinking of human beings and started putting things in perspective for Job (and us). He didn't stop for several chapters. Read Job 38 and 42. PLEASE take the time to read this. As you're reading think about God talking to you as Job.

I think it's interesting that as long as Job and his "comforters" were concentrating on the circumstances and the humanity of the situation nothing happened. Once God spoke and got Job squared away as to who was who then things started poppin in the spirit and manifested in the flesh.

I pray that as with Job we will be found faithful and will Stand against all fear doubt and counsel that God can't, won't or just doesn't give a rip. I pray that we will ALL have Job 42:12 said about us.

In Hebrews 11:1 the word tells us that faith is "the ASSURANCE - the confirmation - the title deed of the things we hope for, being the proof of things we do not see and the convictions of their reality with faith perceiving as real fact what is not revealed to the senses." We have that "title deed of faith" we have the marriage covenant and the Word of God to stand on! Our hope is in the third party of our marriages NOT in our spouses or ourselves. Not in how much sin they get into or don't get into. Not in if they remarry or don't or anything else. Our hope is in God through our blessed Lord Jesus and that's that.

I don't think there is one of us who hasn't had a problem with hoping but we need to look at God for who He is and know ALL mighty is NOT our spouses. Greater is God not your husband or wife. If God will remind Job that He is God how can we expect Him to let our spouses get away with sin? Job was not even a sinner and God took him to task. How much more one who is deep in sin and has chosen to go deeper not hearing Gods warning?

Gods Love guarantees us that He has been talking to our beloved. Job 33:14-18 clearly tells us that. They haven't listened and made good choices but bad choices are what got us all here to begin with! With each time they don't listen and make a bad decision comes a consequence as outlined in Lev 26 and all throughout the Bible as confirmed by history. We may not see it right off but it comes. In Hebrews 12 the Word says if we do not have chastisement from God we are "illegitimate offspring and not true sons at all". We want our spouses to be legitimate offspring don't we? Then we cannot say that compounding their sin makes us give up. I suggest you read Hebrews 12 in the context of Gods discipline and let verses 3-4 and 12-13 speak to you as Standers.

And now to top this off- I personally know of a very long time Stander who watched her husband father 12 - yes one dozen children during her stand. After several false starts this summer he came home for good. DO NOT LIMIT GOD! We haven't got that right. This woman was one of the original Covenant Keepers and has stood the test of time and emotional stress as she raised her children alone watching women (some he married some he didn't) bear more and more of her husbands seed. But she stood the test and has reaped the reward. Is that her husband coming home? She considers that is a by-product. The real victory is over the enemy of his soul who wanted to take him to hell for eternity.

One more thought and a challenge. Please find me scripture to prove that when a person compounds sin by getting deeper into sin that God says OOOH ok I'll just ignore this cause you made the situation worse! Nope that's not our God. Human beings can wink at sin and justify a person going deeper into sinfulness but not God. We WILL reap what we sow in time. God will NOT be mocked. Sin on top of sin doesn't equal righteousness. That's like saying two wrongs DO make a right. Even the secular world knows that isn't the way to say or believe it. Its two wrongs DON'T make a right! :)

Glory to God for His Grace in not just wiping us out! Praise to Jesus who continues to faithfully intercede for us and is faithful to us. Let us follow His example for our spouses.

Lets keep our eyes on the goal and keeping our vows to God. Let's never forget our God is ALL mighty. He just doesn't work on our timetables or do things our ways most of the time. Time is something we can embrace as a friend to work with for our benefit or we can look as another thing God created as an enemy and let it play into a negative plan for our lives.

Philippians 4:13 YOU can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens YOU! Glory Hallelujah!

Please see this
You can print this out and hang it on your wall. I have. :)

Jesus said, "Again I tell you, if two of you on earth agree about anything and everything they may ask, it WILL come to pass and be done for them by My Father in heaven." It may take time but it WILL happen.

Be careful what you agree with and what you pray for. What YOU sow YOU will reap too. Sow faith or doubt and reap the harvest each brings in due season. Choose life, faith, hope and love! That's a good choice. :)

May God completely restore YOU and restore your family to the best plan He has in Jesus Name.

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