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Reverend S. L. Gardner

Spokane Valley, Washington US

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- Honoring Father and Mother -

There is one commandment given to children. Ephesians 5:1-3, "Children, what you should do in union with the Lord is obey your parents, for this is right. Honor your father and mother - this is the first commandment that embodies a promise - so that it may go well with you, and you may live long in the land." (reference Torah writings Exodus 20:12 and Deuteronomy 5:16

I will use the picture of a tree for this lesson. The root and trunk of our life is our parents or whoever raised us and our brothers and sisters. The root system of our personality, our nature is built in the first 6 years of our life. The trunk of our character structure is formed from ages 6-12. (In another lesson I will deal with the issue of broken basic trust.)

The law of honoring is as real today as it always has been. As Standers we must teach our children to honor both of their parents. If we honor our spouses our children will. That does not mean agreeing or justifying sin, it means being honest about our failings and our spouses in an attitude of honor. It means demanding that our children honor both parents even if they must disagree with their behavior.

Why? Because in every area of our lives where we consciously honor our parents life will go well. Conversely the law of honoring works out that where we don't honor our parents our lives will not go well with us. (Deut 5:16) Save for Christ's intervention, it is eternal and unchangeable. There are NO exceptions! Whatever a man/woman sows that identical thing will be reaped.

LOVE DOESN'T PRODUCE BITTER FRUIT. BITTER FRUIT COMES FROM A BITTER ROOT, SO FIND THE JUDGEMENT!

Check out the excuses because of someone else's rotten behavior. As Standers we can always fall back on ohhhh look at their sin! Look at what they did to this family! Look at what they are doing… doing … doing! We excuse our dishonoring behavior and set lousy models for our children.

In the mean time our beloved prodigals can be saying, "I stay away from home because my wife/husband is constantly critical." "I have to be in control! No one else will take the helm!"

BITTER FRUIT IN MY LIFE GROWS FROM AND IS BASED UPON MY ROOTS, MY JUDGMENTS.

RULE OF THUMB - Do what is right because it is right not because someone else "deserves" it. Set the standards you live by according to the bible. Live by those standards no matter what anyone else does. (Psalm 91)

"Good" reasons NEVER justify bad behavior -

Rev. Dr. S.L. Gardner


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