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Reverend S. L. Gardner

Spokane Valley, Washington US

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- Pray for Consequences Then Add Forgivness -

I pray that God is keeping "short accounts" with my beloved rebel. I also pray the same thing for me as I don't want to get off on the wrong track to only find out when I'm a LONG way down that wrong road.)

God's laws are in the works but because of stupidity and "hard hearts" "seared consciences" and blame shifting they are temporarily ignorable. Just like getting speeding or parking tickets but one day it's time to come before the court and have to give an accounting.

Please read Deuteronomy 26 this is Gods warning, outline and clear clear choice as presented to all of us. I pray Leviticus 26 in agreement with God NOT to hurt my husband. The goal of these kinds of scriptures is to bring our beloved to repentance and nothing more. This is Gods outline and I will come into agreement with Gods way of discipline.

I pray according to Hosea 2 and pray that God will do whatever is necessary to rescue my beloved from the "paramour" described in Hosea 3:1. According to Hosea 2 I know he will not find a true love and I ask that this false love will be exposed for what it is.

I ask that the others in my husbands life will have their minds and hearts changed to Gods will and way of thinking or for God to remove them speedily. Over time I've found this prayer to be very effective.

I pray that God will remove any ow from my husbands life as God removed Hagar. I did not agree that this woman would be there but I do not ask for her harm. I ask that she be brought to Gods best plan for her life. I ask that all lewdness and shame in both their lives will be exposed for repentance as in Hosea 2.

Another question I am asked is why do we see our husbands seemingly prosper? One reason is because the enemy can bring blessings but they don't last forever.

Another reason is because Gods laws of sowing and reaping work without prejudice. However Lev 26:16 shows that God's discipline will deal with that eventually too.

Our husbands/wives are foolish enough to think the material stuff and fleshly gratification is the scale to use to determine happiness and prosperity. They aren't wise enough to understand that one day they will stand before their Creator and have to account. Talk about major denial! Pray for them to have Godly wisdom into Gods laws and consequences. If they don't repent while there is life in their bodies they will see that the laws of God are now and have always been in place but it will be too late. Their violations will cause them to pay and that payment will last for eternity.

There are eternal souls at stake and our beloved rebel is piling up the "speeding tickets" in the heavenly courts. As with "mans" tickets they can be ignored but one day it's a big shock when you're standing before THE Judge. When you're caught the heavenly courts consequences are more than a little jail time or a fine.

Mark 9:42 and Luke 17:2 are going to be big big "tickets" where many prodigals are accountable concerning the children and that's just one point of natural consequences going against them. God is going to look at them and say the equivalent of Galatians 5:13. Then it will be sentencing time. Christ will not be able to act as his advocate/legal defender if there is no repentance on record. They will stand before God and no excuses, reasoning's, or pleas for mercy will be considered. The Word says IF we confess our sins (coming to repentance in full). That's a big IF that is ignored in a lot of theology.

Do you not know that the unrighteous and the wrongdoers will not inherit or have any share in the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived (misled); neither the impure and immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor those who participate in homosexuality, nor cheats (swindlers and thieves) nor greedy graspers, nor drunkards, nor foulmouthed revilers and slanderers, nor extortioners and robbers will inherit or have any share in the kingdom of God.

Our beloved rebels could hear James 4 that day too. Take a look at that DA's argument and realize satan will be there to bring up every sin we haven't put under the cleansing blood of Christ through complete repentence. If our spouses don't repent Christ won't be able to do a thing for them. Why? That's spelled out in Hebrews 10. If our beloved is a "believer" and is ignoring the teaching by the Holy Spirit it is the same as ignoring the driving laws or trying to convince the court that you should be the exception to those laws because of circumstances. You may get away with driving "outside the laws" for awhile but eventually consequences will catch up with you.

For those whose husbands are not believers the sin must be covered by repentance and acceptance of the provision of Christs work on the cross or it will not be washed away.

Hebrews 10 makes this statement about those who have already "known" the Lord, (the Truth). Vs 26, "For if we go on deliberately and willingly sinning after once acquiring the knowledge of the Truth, there is no longer any sacrifice left to atone for our sins, no further offering to which to look forward. (vs 27) there is nothing left for us then but a kind of awful and fearful prospect and expectation of divine judgment and the fury of burning wrath and indignation which will consume those who put themselves in opposition to God."

Verses 28 and 29 confirm these two verses.

Why is this? It's because we have to ASK and ACT to have our sins washed away by Christ's work on the cross. 1 John 1:9 says, "If we freely admit our sins He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, (true to His own nature and promises) and will forgive our sins (dismiss our lawlessness) and continuously cleanse us from all unrighteousness." That continuous cleansing is AFTER repentance not covering unconfessed unrepentant sin.

If the "confession" which is a word used for the process of repentance isn't done there is no provision for "dismissing our lawlessness". We pay the full penalty.

Malachi 2:16 says, "For the Lord, the God of Israel, says: I hate divorce and marital separation and him who covers his wife with violence. Therefore keep a watch upon your spirit that you deal not treacherously and faithlessly with your marriage mate. 1 Cor 7:11 the last part says, "And I charge the husband that he should not put away or divorce his wife." Our precious rebels cannot ignore these scriptures and be in the will of God. Our spouses have placed themselves in opposition to God and will suffer the consequences. They can say it isn't so all they want but the heavenly court will convene and they will pay the prices if they don't repent. That process of repentance is more than just saying Oh God I'm sorry for what I did and then asking for blessing on continuing in the very thing that was the sin to begin with!!!

I know it's hard and it's especially hard when we are faced with seeing our husbands seemingly prosper. I know I'm throwing a lot of scripture at you but I want you to see that I'm not just talking through my hat here. Please indulge me? Please also take the time to read these scriptures for yourself. Matthew 16:26 and Mark 8:36 say the same thing, "For what shall it profit a man if he shall gain the whole world and lose his own soul?"

Proverbs 6:32 is very clear, "But whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks heart and understanding (moral principle and prudence); he who does it is destroying his own life." Verse 33 continues, "Wounds and disgrace will he get, and his reproach will not be wiped away."

Proverbs 6:26 - 29 talks about our beloved rebels eventual consequences and they will happen for one thing because these are natural laws. And for another because you are "covering the altar of God with your tears". Malachi 2:13 says our spouses do this sin with DOUBLE guilt. Take a look at Malachi 2 through 3:5. Then read Mal 4:1 and know what your spouse is in for. That's why our prayers are SO important.

Then please read Malachi 4:2 and 3. I could give you a hundred scriptures to describe you dear Stander but since you're already in Malachi you might as well see these. J

Where you are concerned that same trial will have God saying (1 Cor 6:9) J Just keep doing what is right because it's right. That's planting good seed. "Water" that seed with a good attitude as much as is humanly possible and forgive the one who has despitefully used you. Matthew 5:44 and Luke 6:28. Now I don't expect you to be able to forgive your spouse completely but "by faith" you tell the Lord that you forgive him. When I say, "by faith I forgive my beloved" that means Lord, I want to forgive him but I know there are areas of unforgivness in my heart that I simply can't eliminate yet. Please forgive me for that failing and give me Grace and Mercy for those areas and know I want to forgive him.

You see forgiving is good for me. Forget how it effects my beloved (although it does as it frees God to work with him even more) I am thinking of how it effects me! I don't need to bring curses that go with unforgivness upon my head. But because I know that there are areas of unforgivness in my heart where he's concerned I must throw myself on the mercy of God's court. I can do that because I've "confessed" my sin of unforgivness and have asked God to forgive me and have mercy on me while I continue to try to forgive completely. God knows the intent of the heart and knows I truly want to forgive my husband but just can't and am not trying to excuse or justify my sin.

Ok that's my Shabbat sermon. LOL hope you didn't get too bored.


Rev. Dr. S.L. Gardner


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